Editor’s note: A candid survey about sexual behavior of married men and women left alone for longer periods of time was published on ifeng.com last July. The survey asked couples about their views on masturbation, sex partners and attitudes towards cheating, among others. Despite attempting to blow the lid off a subject long considered taboo in China, the survey has a number of flaws, namely the fact that only 2863 people participated and that the number of male vs. female participants remains unknown.
The phenomenon of a married couple living apart for a longer period of time has existed for a long time. But when faced with such a dilemma, couples must confront the question of how to solve each other’s physical desires. iFeng turned this question into a two-part survey and posed it to its male and female online community. Here are the results:
1) How do you satisfy your desires when you are alone? | |||
Men’s’ answer: | |||
- I masturbate | 49.84% | ||
- I find a safe sex partner | 33.53 % | ||
- I wait for her to come back | 13.95% | ||
- I use a sex toy | 2.68% | ||
Women’s answer: | |||
- I find a safe sex partner | 37.45% | ||
- I masturbate | 31.47% | ||
- I wait for him to come back | 19.54% | ||
- I use a sex toy | 11.54% | ||
2) How would you like your partner to deal with their desires? | |||
Men’s’ answer: | |||
- Wait for me to come home | 44.57% | ||
- Masturbate | 37.17% | ||
- Find a safe sex partner | 18.26% | ||
Women’s answer: | |||
- Wait for me to come home | 35.58% | ||
- Masturbate | 34.05% | ||
- Find a safe sex partner | 30.37% | ||
3)Are you curious as to how your partner deals with their desires? | |||
Men & women’s answer (this question was not divided according to gender): | |||
- Not curious | 29.99% | ||
- Curious and I would ask | 28.22% | ||
- Curious but wouldn’t ask; too scared to do so | 14.19% | ||
- Curious but wouldn’t ask; too embarrassed | 27.71% | ||
4) Is finding a temporary sex partner considered cheating? | |||
Men & women’s answer (this question was not divided according to gender): | |||
- Yes | 60.14% | ||
- No | 39.86% | ||
5) How do you feel about your partner always masturbating? | |||
Women’s answer: | |||
- I’ll spend more time with him from now on | 34.11% | ||
- Hint at him to find a sex partner | 17.80% | ||
- It’s complicated. I’m not sure how to deal with this | 14.73% | ||
- It worries me and afraid he’ll cheat | 13.89% | ||
- Angry; I won’t allow him to keep doing this | 13.34% | ||
- I feel guilty so buy him sex toys | 6.13% | ||
Men’s answer: | |||
- I’ll spend more time with her from now on | 42.87% | ||
- It worries me and afraid she’ll cheat | 18.42% | ||
- It’s complicated. I’m not sure how to deal with this | 15.01% | ||
- Angry; this is insulting | 12.07% | ||
- Hint at her to find a sex partner | 11.63% |
Source: ifeng.com
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if you have ever dated as many girls i have in the over 10 years that i have been in china, in the serch for the wife i wish to marry, i can say girls in cheat fare more then boys and if boys cheat its only as they are deprived from sex from the girls as they are told from a young age that of a girl loves sex with her boyfriend or husband she is a slut. as girls are not to love sex more then a boy, but if a girl give more sex to a boy she is a slut so it a paradox. if she make him happy more then others then she is a slut and if she dont he will find a slut. All chinese are victims of their own culture
Dec 03, 2013 00:04 Report Abuse
Completly bullshit this survey. i doubt that anyone would prefer their partner find a sex partner rather than pleasing herself. And it always stays in comparison that the people here say: sex is bad i only have sex with my husband to please him. But then they wanna find a sex partner? dem logics
Sep 13, 2013 08:55 Report Abuse
I don't know what is more disturbing about this bogus survey. Is it the fact that more women find a safe sex partner rather than masturbate? Or, is it the fact that almost 1/3 of women surveyed would prefer their husband/boyfriend find a safe sex partner rather than masturbate? I think the answers coming from men are a little bit more realistic but still extremely hard to believe. Either way, sounds bogus to me.
Sep 13, 2013 08:35 Report Abuse